Lingerie
I now have a new appreciation for the beauty of lingerie showers. I had thought they were cool from the first time I heard the idea; I liked them even more when Joy opened up this bag full of sexy little nothings; and I was sure there was genius in the world when she tried them all on and so on and so on…
It wasn’t until recently that I’ve learned the true genius behind this sort of shower.
First, when you have one of these lingerie showers the bride invites just about every girlfriend she’s accumulated over the years, and nearly half of those people will come and bring something. That makes for a wide range of personalities, which in turn means a broad range of tastes and ideas about lingerie and other such things. So, you start off with an eclectic mix of other people’s personalities and tastes made manifest in satin, lace, mesh, cotton, polyester, leather, latex, and materials you wouldn’t expect.
Then when you are married it takes you a few good months to try it all out. Sure, the bride tries it all on a few times to see what she should keep and what she should return. It needs to fit right, y’know? This initial stage is really fun and sexy, but it is entirely different from a normal night, morning, afternoon, etc when she’ll have to actually select something from the little lingerie holder she also got at the shower. This is where the genius comes into play.
You get all this different lingerie. The husband has a few favorites in mind that he likes, and then the wife has a few favorites that she likes. In my situation she actually has more that she likes than I do, because she’s got them all categorized by situation, mood and so on. Over time, I have gotten a really decent feel for what Joy’s tastes in lingerie are, and I’ve also gotten a better idea about what my tastes in lingerie are. I’ve been really surprised by all of this. I have begun to like things that I never thought were all that great or appealing. Had Joy and I gone out to buy some lingerie ourselves we would have probably purchased a few items and enjoyed them, but not as much as the lingerie that we now know that we like. The gifts given to us by our friends.
The reason I am thinking about this and writing about this is because it is Christmas time again, and I am thinking of gifts for Joy. I had thought about buying lingerie for her, and I most likely will (but not for Christmas… I’ve decided to get her something else for Christmas… the lingerie will just have to be planned “spur of the moment” gifts because flowers are getting old for me.) Now I am shopping for lingerie again, and I see all the old stuff that I thought was hot, but now realize isn’t really all that great in one practical way or another… or even aesthetically sometimes.
Also, I have this urge to individually thank the prescient minded gift givers who have helped me to see the light in lingerie selection, but I feel really awkward about going about that with most of Joy’s girlfriends. So I foresee this helping me get all of that appreciation off my chest.
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