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Love, Caring, and Self-Control

Love, caring, and self-control seem to be so interrelated that they are often confused for each other or rendered indistinguishable from one another.

In one sense, if you are lacking in self-control you can be considered completely uncaring, careless, and be quickly accused of “not caring.” (That’s a bad thing) Also, by lacking self-control you can easily fall into behaviors or perhaps, if your lucky, discrete actions which would often be deemed unloving, disloyal/unfaithful, or even mean and hateful.

In another sense, if you have a great amount of self-control AND you desired to show love and care for those around you… you could easily accomplish the feat without having any feelings of special regard for those people. You could just be ‘going through the motions,’ because you wanted to for any reason other than actual regard for people.

Strangely no one I know falls into either of these extremes. No one I know has perfect self-control nor is completely lacking in self-control. Likewise, none of these people have a perfectly “high” regard for the people around them nor do they have absolutely no regard for their neighbors. So, what are we to do?

I guess we just stumble through life. Sometimes we have a certain higher regard for people, but have moments in which our self-control fails. In these instances apologies are usually given, and life moves on just as it had before.

Moving from the abstract to the more concrete… I have a confession to make. I have a fairly high regard for my wife. In fact, I often go so far as saying that I love her. However, I have not yet fully developed self-control. So, basically today when I…

Crap! It’s time to go work.
I’ll have finish this later.

Posted by David under Behavior |