How’s Married Life?
This is the one question that I am getting more than any other these days. Gone are the days of “How are you?” or even “and how is Joy doing?” Now everone seems to be getting straight to the point with a grin and, “So, how’s married life treating you?”
Man, I could devote an entire blog to this one topic, and if I had the time I’d fill it up with a few hundred entries without a problem.
One thing that I feel free to talk about if people are looking for a longer answer than, “great!” is the changes involved with getting married. I have a new roommate; who happens to be female, which is new for me. On top of that I am also sleeping with someone every night, which is totally new for me.
I talk about this whenever people are interested, because it is so different. I’m not accostommed to sleeping with someone, and Joy is kinda difficult in this regard because she gets so hot when she sleeps. Some of her girlfriends had warned me about this, and I have even noticed it on a few occasions, but I never thought it would have such an impact on me. This morning is no exception.
I wake up over and over again at night now, when I am used to sleeping through an entire night without a problem. Instead, I wake up early in the morning, because the human furnace next to me is making so extremely hot. Sometimes I’ll wake up several different times throughout the night and I’ll wonder if I ever really slept at all.
My supervisor at UPS is always interested in this marriage situation of mine, and he got to hear about this problem. He laughed about it and said it would drive him crazy because he likes it cold when he sleeps. Well, I am the same way. If it is cooler I can go to sleep sooo easily. Joy? She heats things up so much that I just wake up — sometimes I’m even starting to sweat.
Tonight I woke up at who knows what hour and I had a bit of an idea. Joy was hot all over again so I rolled the comforter thing down so it was just up to our waists. Then I finished Joy’s earlier undressing job for her and thought it would be a great to roll her over and rub her back. She seemed to like this even in her sleep, and it cooled her down enough for another couple hours’ worth of sleep.
It’s 7AM now, so this idea obviously wasn’t much of a long-term solution. I need a long-term solution. For a few weeks I didn’t really let this sort of thing bother me, because I figured I’d adjust and be sleeping through 100+ degree temperatres in no time. Now it is just over three weeks later and I am still waking up at all hours of the early morning. Perhaps I will adjust completely at some point… I did sleep through the night last night after all. I guess patience will have to work until better ideas come my way.
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Though this, at first glance, seems like a funny issue, I would be more than happy to support the fact that it is a serious conundrum. Sadly, I know of no known solutions to this. Maybe put yourself under a seperate blanket at night. This way her heat stays in her little cocoon. peace
Comment by JennyJ — May 29, 2005 @ 4:03 pm
An ice barrier! Pour ice all over her!
hmmm…
Maybe you shouldn’t sleep under the covers since even if you have the AC down a lot it wouldn’t matter.
She is a furnace! Everytime I’ve slept next to her I wake up really really hot. But you have to admit that it’s easier to fall asleep with her next to you.
I love Joy!!
Comment by Jessica — May 30, 2005 @ 2:20 pm
My parents and a lot of other married couples I know use fans. At night my dad has a huge industrial strength fan pointed at him and he sleeps under only a sheet, while my mom uses both a sheet and a comforter. Just a thought David, good luck!
P.S. I’ve been told I’m a human furnace too
Comment by Nate — May 31, 2005 @ 3:21 pm
I always thought sleeping next to a hot, naked woman was the best part of being married!
Oh, you meant temperature? Hmm.
Two bits of advice; first give Nate’s idea a try, that sounds useful, and the second is that to some degree you will definitely get used to it. I don’t sleep as well without someone in the bed anymore. Any time Jaime and I are apart for a while, it takes a bit to get used to sleeping alone, and then yet again to get used to sleeping together.
Comment by Jordan — June 1, 2005 @ 10:18 am
Hey -
I hope all this discussion can lead to a solution for such a real and problematic issue in our relationship! A fan won’t work b/c David doesn’t like fans. We bought a little one at Target and I was all excited to take it home and use it at night until after the first night he told me he couldn’t sleep with it on b/c the white noise was too loud. His best solution yet is to crank the A/C down to 70 degrees (or lower if he can get away with it). Then when I wake up first in the morning I FREEZE!!!
This is serious folks! Have you any idea how terrible it is to have your newlywed husband unable to sleep next to you at night. I mean… first I’m not sleeping well b/c he’s not in bed next to me (he often goes to bed much later than me) and then when he finally does come to bed I start to sleep so well that I go into my “human furnace” deep sleep mode. Then David can’t sleep well… so he gets up… then I can’t sleep well b/c he’s not there. Now, as you can see, this quickly becomes a huge problem for our sleep schedule and thus our sanity. Should we be like those couples in the old TV shows who slept in two seperate beds in the same room? I’m starting to wonder if that’s not the best solution. Oh and by the way… I love you too JB!
Comment by Joy — June 15, 2005 @ 9:32 pm