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Way Too Lucky

For those of you who don’t know, I am getting married on May 5th — in like nineteen days. Since the wedding is getting closer and closer I have been corresponding with a number of old friends from High School and that Fort Myers life in general. All of them are congratulatory, but many of them also come to me with all sorts of questions about my decision to get married. They almost always ask with the perspective that the decision might be hasty or wrong in some way.

This has actually been good for me because it immediately puts me on something of a defensive without causing me be defensive. I get to talk to these people from my past about my many thoughts and philosophies about marriage, dating, money, college, career, parenting, etc.

In the past week a girl (who I had wanted to date at many points in my past) asked me a question along these same lines, and scores of reasons for the marriage came to mind. I had so much to say about why I am marrying Joy, and why I am doing it now as opposed to later that I was really overwhelmed. I am still sorting out some of my thoughts on the subject tonight even. I had apologetics ranging from simple, curt and potentially funny statements to deep insightful thougts (not necessarily mine) into our generation’s attitudes and choices about dating and marriage.

Tonight I was thinking about all of this again when I should be preparing for a Bible Study tomorrow or writing a paper or two. Then it hit me… I was still coming up with personally satisfying reasons for marrying Joy, and I came up with a short list of one to three word responses that were really aggressive and impressive at the same time. Then I managed to actually sell myself on this all over again. I realized that I am so unbelievably lucky. I looked at my situation from the perspective of someone who had known me since Middle School merged with someone who had known me throughout college, and I realized that I am in an awesome situation.

Basically, I am about to marry someone who adores and respects me with a depth that makes others uncomfortable. You should be sold there, but it gets better.

This girl is gorgeous to the level of private fantasy — It’s like God read my mind during the masturbatory fantasies I had throughout my Middle and early High School years and then one-upped me… because He could. Again, this alone would sell most on the prospect of marriage, no? It gets better.

The girl is just smart… by any measure, but to throw it in your face let me say that she’ll likely graduate with High Honors from UF in just 3 years and 5 weeks. Her IQ is ridiculous to boot, but that is just icing when you consider how disciplined and hard working she always is. None of those things would matter all that much, but when you realize that she is able to work a crowd at will and/or charm her way into the heart of just about any authority-figure… it just makes the whole package unreal. OK, enough, everyone is sold now! Sorry, I know this is painful, but there’s more. It just gets better…

All of these things are nice, of course, but they’d mean nothing if the girl in question just up and left you one day… cheating on you with some other guy. This is where Joy really rocks. She is intensely loyal. Of course, she comes with a stubborn streak too, but that be tolerated with her fierce loyalty in tow.

Finally, when this really just shouldn’t get any better; it does again. This girl believes in so many of the same things that I believe in. She fears, respects, and loves God. She wants many of the same things I want from life, and ultimately wants to live her life in a spiritual and religious way.

After thinking up all of these awesome things to tell the next hapless person to ask me about my choice for marriage, I realized that I was way too lucky of a guy. It made me really happy that I wasn’t all that lucky early on with the women, and that I had lived the life that led me to this point.

So, ask me, “Am I sure this is right?” Yeah, pretty sure. “Why are you doing this so soon?” Soon? I thought I had waited too long! and… what do you think?

I love you, Joy.
Thanks for the last five years, and all the promise that we have in store for “us.”

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