Ten Key Relational Needs
I have been going to counseling for a few months now, and it has gone fairly well for me. A few weeks ago my counselor gave me a sheet of paper that I found today in my car. It has some important stuff that I’d like to keep for reference, but I know I’ll just lose the paper again. So, I’m recording it here for my reference and possibly for other’s use.
Ten Key Relational Needs
Acceptance: Receiving another person willingly and unconditionally when the other’s behavior has been imperfect. Being will to continue loving another in spite of offenses. (Romans 15:7)
Affection: Expressing care and closeness through physical touch or other means. Saying “I love you.” (Romans 16:16; Mark 10:16)
Appreciation: Expressing thanks, praise, or commendation. Recognizing accomplishment and/or effort. (Colossians 3:15b; I Corinthians 11:12)
Approval / Blessing: Building up or affirming another, affirming the existance of the relationship and its importance. (Ephesians 4:29; Mark 1:11)
Attention: Conveying appropriate interest, concern, and care; taking thought of another; entering another’s ‘world.’ (Corinthians 12:25)
Comfort: Responding to a hurting person with words, feelings and/or touch; to hurt with and for another person’s grief or pain. (Romans 12:15b; Matthew 5:4; II Corinthians 1:3-4; John 11:35)
Encouragement: Urging another to persists and persevere toward a goal; stimulating toward love and good deeds (I Thessalonians 5:11; Hebrews 10:24)
Respect: Valuing and regarding another person highly; treating another as important. Honoring. (Romans 12:10)
Security / Peace: Harmony in relationships; freedom from fear or threat of harm. (Romans 12:16-18)
Support: Coming alongside and gently helping with a problem or struggle; providing appropriate assistance. (Galatians 6:2)